What do you want?

The Law of Creation frees you to consciously step out of self-imposed limitations and into the infinite wonder of what is possible for your life.  When you have integrated the other six spiritual laws, you will be well on your way to a healed heart and in the perfect position to go for what you desire.

In her book, Spiritual Divorce, Debbie Ford says that “The Law of Creation guides us to design a new future that is grounded in divine truth.” The Spiritual Divorce process was developed by Debbie Ford and is a well-known and proven process for healing hearts.

Once you have forgiven and broken the painful ties that bind you to the past, you will be in the perfect place to create from clear ground.  You deserve to be free from the pain of the past and to live with an open, loving, and trusting heart.  It may be hard work for you, but I guarantee you that if you make the commitment to heal your heart, it will be well worth it.

If you were standing on a blank canvas, what would you create?

Give yourself a little time here to dream.  Before you begin this 10-15 minute journaling exercise, clear your mind of all limitation.  If you notice doubt or fear creep in, just ask it to sit aside for your journal time.  Use the following prompts to imagine what you would create:

• If your heart were completely healed, what would you be able to have in your life?
• What is it that you would be able to do that you haven’t been able to do up to now?
• Where would you live? work?
• What new things would you try?  A new hobby?  Would you take up an activity that you haven’t participated in years?
• How might you look at the world differently?
• If you had the feeling in your heart that you were unstoppable, what actions would you take this week?
• What old grudges would you drop?  What fears would you let go of?
• If there were no limitations, what would your life look like?

Once you’ve written for about 15 minutes, fold the piece of paper up and place it under you pillow.  Read it every night for a week.  Feel free to add to it or update it as you re-read it.  Let the good feelings build in you as you commit to creating what you want for your life.

Share with me what you discovered about your desires.

On Self-growth.com, Amanda Butler discusses this universal law in detail.  The most powerful reason to forgive is for your own freedom.  I’ve often heard Debbie Ford say, “forgiveness takes place in your heart, not your mind,” and it’s so true.  This Spiritual Law often takes a little extra time to integrate, especially when deep betrayal is involved.  It is empowering to know that once you have fully integrated the Law of Forgiveness, you will be free from the past and ready to move completely into a future that you create for yourself.

Forgiving can be difficult, but it’s necessary to forgive so you can live your life.

I was touched very deeply by Azim Khamiza, who practices The Law of Forgiveness everyday.  In 1995, his son Tariq Khamiza lost his life to a gang-related murder.  Azim shares how holding resentment takes up precious space in our minds.  This is true for all situations.  If we are holding onto resentment, the person we hurt the most is ourselves.  In forgiving, Azim has been able to create a foundation that educates and empowers.  What will you be able to create through your forgiveness?  What could you do with all that resentment that you hold for someone you once loved?  or for someone who has hurt you?

Here’s some more…

In this short video, you see how forgiveness can benefit all of humanity.  You might have to look a little, or should I say–open your heart,  to see the possibilities resulting from your forgiveness.  It may not be this dramatic, but your forgiveness will change your world.

How we interpret the events in our lives, will determine our experience.  How can this be true?  Let me give you an example.

My mother left when I was a teenager.  She left without saying, “Goodbye.” I interpreted her leaving to mean that I was insignificant.  I felt as if I didn’t matter and was unworthy of her time and attention.  The belief that I created in my own mind, led to a life in which I felt very insignificant.  To avoid feeling insignificant I created situations in which I was a key player.  I didn’t want to feel those old wounds and so I avoided them like the plague. Unfortunately, I still felt insignificant and nothing I could do filled the wound.

The only thing that shifted my experience was integrating The Law of Choice.  Once I stepped out of an automatic negatively created interpretation, I was able to consciously create an empowering interpretation of these painful events.  Choosing your interpretations of the events in your life is a very powerful step toward healing your heart.

There is no better way to empower yourself than to view the circumstances of your relationship from The Law of Choice.

We make hundreds of choices everyday.  Are they conscious?

You make hundreds of choices about how to spend your money.  You make choices to turn left or right all day long.  You choose what books to read and you choose shows what to watch on television.  The amount of choice that is available to you is insurmountable.  Life is a matter of choice.

Why would it not be true also for your thinking?  You decide what to think about what has happened to you–what it means about you.  Often you look outside of yourself for what to believe about yourself and the events of your life.  With the ending of a relationship, you will find yourself with a potpourri of options.  You can choose to think that the ending of your relationship is the worst thing that ever happened or the best.  I’d like to support you in making a powerful interpretation of the ending of your relationship.  An interpretation that opens the door to a life beyond what you can currently comprehend.  A life filled with peace and love and fulfillment.

Choose your thoughts!

I love the work of Byron Katie, because she is able to zero in on how our thoughts dictate our behavior.  We will either choose to think thoughts that limit us or that expand us.  We will choose thoughts that empower us or disempower us.

Your heart heals with The Law of Choice, when you choose to interpret the events of your breakup or loss in ways that serve your highest desires for your life.

Taking responsibility for the healing of your heart.

Taking responsibility for yourself starts with acknowledging that the way your relationship looks and feels is the result of your choices.  Many people point their fingers at their ex-partner and claim that ‘it’ was all their fault, while others might blame themselves, but one thing for sure… if you blame others, you are not taking responsibility for yourself.

What does blame sound like?

You are not taking responsibility if your internal dialogue sounds like this:

It’s all my fault!  I’m such a failure.  If only I did it different.  If only I was prettier, nicer, sexier….  Blah, blah, blah….  He ruined my life.  She betrayed me and now I’ll never trust again.  Blah, blah, blah!

Blaming does not serve you, and only indicates that you are in a victim mentality.  With the laws of acceptance, surrender, and Divine guidance you will understand that taking responsibility is not about blaming…others or yourself.

Blaming does not work.  It does not change your circumstances and it does not make you feel better or motivate you to make necessary changes.  Blaming your ex-partner will not bring you the peace you’re looking for.  The Law of Responsibility requires that you end the blame game and take responsibility for what you’ve created.  This is a hard law for many to integrate, but I can help you take this important step in healing your heart.

When you take responsibility, you acknowledge how powerful you are.  Be assured that as you take responsibility for what you’ve created, you will not be asked to condone inappropriate behavior or justify abuse.  That is NEVER okay!

Being honest with yourself!

In this process, I will ask you to be brutally honest and ruthlessly compassionate with yourself.  You will discover key choice points in your relationship that contributed to the necessity of a heart healing.

Many people find that living The Law of Responsibility is a  powerful turning point in their life, for it is in taking responsibility that you reclaim your ability to consciously create.

Take responsibility

Laura Silva is referring to teaching children to take responsibility for their choices.  We could learn from what she teaches children.

I’ve felt a little apprehensive talking about Divine Guidance, because you might think that I’m telling you to adhere to a specific religion.  Well, I’m not.  Whatever religion you practice is perfectly.  Whether or not you even practice a religion is irrelevant.  I’m not here to judge your beliefs as bad or wrong.  In fact, I’m here to support you in using whatever Divine Guidance you have access to.

With that said, there are a select group of people are not happy with their religious experience.  If you are in this category, we could use your relationship with your religion as the focal point for the Spiritual Divorce process.

Finding your own answers.

Learning how to access your own inner-wisdom will be key to integrating The Law of Divine Guidance.  Your internal world is a safe place for your Divine Guidance to make itself known to you.  In this process of healing your heart, I will guide you weekly into your internal world to access this wisdom.

Resources that could help to connect you with your Divine Guidance

Please share your resources in the form of a comment.  How do you connect with your Divine Guidance?  I want to know.

Eckhart Tolle — A New Earth

Maybe you watched the Oprah webcasts.  I found the series very powerful and resonating.  Give it a try.

Meditation is a powerful tool to use to connect with your inner-wisdom.

Share with me how you connect with your inner-wisdom.  In this short video, Deepak Chopra talks about how to meditate.  This is a tool I like to use to connect with my Divine Guidance.