Can you laugh at yourself?

Can you laugh at the pain you’re in?  Can you laugh at your situation?  Can you laugh at how you’ve given yourself away and how you’ve dis-empowered yourself time and time again?  Laughing at yourself doesn’t negate the tears or pain you’re experiencing, but it does speak to your willingness to move beyond it.

You may go in and out of pain.  You may identify self-sabotaging patterns and behaviors and find yourself right back in the same situation you thought you were out of.  We’ve all done it at some point in our lives, so laugh.  Laugh until your belly hurts deep inside…  Laugh until you see –with clarity– the irony of your situation.  Laugh!  Not to beat yourself up, but to nurture yourself.  Laugh!  Not to remind yourself of what stupidity you’ve allowed yourself to stoop to, but to remember that you’re human.  That’s right–human!

When you’re done laughing….

Laugh some more!  Then take stock.  Look at your life and what you would like to be different.  Identify the key elements you would like in an empowered relationship.  Here are some ideas you might want to consider as you’re articulating your desires…

There’s lots of fun and play and laughter–genuine and hearty.  It’s obvious to everyone that knows this monogamous couple that they enjoy each other.  There is a mutual respect and admiration that they have for each other.  While they bring different qualities and gifts to the table, each is valuable and valued.  They freely express themselves and are utterly undefended with each other.

They are always learning something new to discover and explore together–including each others bodies.  They empower each other to step into their  limitless potential–again and again.  They are confidants and share what’s in their hearts–without reservation.

They have adventures together and are filled with passion for life.  They are consciously together–sharing their lives and having a positive impact on everything (and everyone) they touch.  Their relationship is a breathing, living entity the enlivens them and those they interact with.  Their relationship is free of shame and guilt and is a container of mutual love, attraction, affection, and care.  They feel free to be themselves and have full access and expression of their authentic voices.

They have the experience of being in love with each other and meeting each other…their love deepens over time.  They take responsibility for themselves and are aware of their projections and therefore don’t put anything onto the other.

It’s easy and unfolds to their mutual delight, satisfaction, and joy!

This relationship is free of manipulation and passive-aggressive behavior and co-dependence.  They are free of the fear of loss, knowing that whatever happens is in their highest good.

They work together in some capacity and being together adds to their personal paths as opposed to taking away from them.  Communication is clear and direct.  There is deep compassion and empathy and unconditional love.  While they have much in common, they continue to pursue their individual interests and never give up anything that is important to them for the sake of the relationship.

Is healing really possible?

If you’ve been hurt and if you’re still feeling the pain of a broken heart, then you might not even be able to see beyond your pain to what is possible.  I know it’s possible, because I’ve been through this coaching process myself as part of my training–and for a real relationship that caused me pain.  I know the power that integrating the spiritual laws will have on your life, because they’ve worked in every single one of my clients lives.  One step at a time you will learn the tools and skills that will turn your pain into your greatest opportunities.

Start Your Healing TODAY!

I have every confidence that I can show you how to heal your heart.  It will take a few things on your part… willingess being the key ingredient.  If you’re ready to heal your heart, then contact me at Leila @myheartheals.com to schedule your  introductory relationship coaching appointment today.