How To Heal Your Broken Heart

If you could have healed your heart by now, you would have.  Right?

Maybe you’ve tried to heal your heart, but you just don’t know how to move on from the pain.  The pain could actually be a protective mechanism that you think will keep you safe.  It won’t!  It only perpetuates your suffering.

In order to heal your broken heart, use the pain from your grief, and move powerfully into a bright future, you must be willing to let go of your story and the pain it’s caused you.  I can expertly help you with that!

Willingness is your ticket to freedom!

If you can say, “Yes, I am willing to heal my heart,” then you have taken the first step toward your liberation from the pain that’s kept you small and in a limited existence.  My client, Wendy is an incredible example of willingness.  She showed up willing to heal, willing to trust, willing to surrender, willing to not know, and willing to be wrong about everything she knew about her story.  She came out the other side as a powerful survivor of a tragic loss that took her husband long before one would ever expect.  Here’s her story:

After the tragic loss of my soul mate, the pain and guilt was too much to bear.  I woke up and performed my life’s tasks, but I disengaged from life; vowing to never allow life to hurt me that way again.  I was incapable of making the simplest of relationships work much less the difficult ones like three growing boys struggling to understand why their dad had been taken.

My mom, “an out of the box thinker,” suggested I talk to Leila (CK) and possibly consider doing some work with her.  Mom has made numerous “suggestions” in my forty years of life, but for reasons known clearly to me now, but not then… I called.

I truly believe God knew I had hit rock bottom and I was waking a dangerous line to a place that would only lead my family to further heartache.  Through the four months I have worked with Leila my life has completely shifted.  Where there once was pain, frustration, loneliness, and guilt, there now is peace, love, acceptance, and shear joy.

Through our work, as difficult and exhausting as it was at times, Leila has helped me to heal wounds I truly thought would eventually consume me.

I’ve begun to re-engage back into my life.  For the first time in four years my children and I are laughing again.  My relationships with my mom, sisters, friends, and co-workers have taken on a new deeper, richer meaning.

Things happen in all of our lives, but when we learn that we have choices we can choose to not be the victim anymore.  We can choose how we view the world and those in it.  It opens a door to a part of ourselves and others that is truly amazing and magnificent.

Thank you Leila for not giving my life back, but helping me to create a better one.  Words cannot express how grateful and blessed I feel that you were placed in my path.  I find joy everyday because you have helped me to clear out the pain.  There’s room to be happy now.  I’m not surviving anymore–I’m living, and when the hurts come I’ll be stronger and greater for them.

My life now has a meaningful purpose!

–Wendy Montanez

Healing your heart is sacred work!

It’s interesting to me that the word sacred has the same letters in the word scared. Fear often stands between us and our willingness to do this sacred healing.  We are fearful of being hurt again or of losing again.  We are fearful of what hard work it will take (that’s true–spiritual work is hard work), and we are fearful of letting go of everything we’ve told ourselves that holds the pain in place.

I consider my role in healing your heart to be a sacred trust.  I consider myself a guide and facilitator and honor the fact that you are the one doing the work and making the changes and healing your heart.  I’m simply a tool that you can use to facilitate the healing of your heart and the creation of a life you love, and I’m a damn good one!